Using „Please“ and „Thank You“ in Germany

Quick Overview:

  • Always use „Bitte“ (Please) whenever you ask for something, whether from strangers or friends.
  • Use „Danke“ (Thank you) regularly whenever someone helps you or does something for you.
  • Don’t hesitate to say „Bitte“ and „Danke“ often – Germans really appreciate it and never see it as excessive or annoying.

The Examples will be in German, but you can use the english version () as well.

Using „Bitte“ („Please“) Correctly:

„Please“ is often used to make polite requests or to offer something in a friendly way:

„Kannst du mir bitte beim aufstehen helfen?“ („Could you please help me to stand up?“)

When making a request:

  • „Können Sie mit bitte helfen.“ („Could you please help me?“)
  • „Kannst du mir bitte das Wasser reichen?“ („Can you please pass me the water?“)

As a response to „Thank you”:

A: “Danke für deine Hilfe” („Thank you for your help!“)

B: “Bitte, gern geschehen” („you’re welcome!“)

When offering or handing something over:

  • “Bitte, hier ist Ihr Kaffee.” („Here is your coffee, please enjoy!“)

Using „Danke“ („Thank you“) correctly:

„Thank You“ shows appreciation and is used frequently in Germany:

„Danke für das Essen“ („Thank you for the dish!“)

In everyday situations, when receiving something or when someone does something nice:

  • “Danke für das Geschenk” („Thank you for the gift!“)
  • „Danke für deine Hilfe“ („Thanks for helping!“)

In formal situations:

  • “Vielen Dank für Ihre Unterstützung” („Thank you very much for your support.“)
  • “Vielen Dank für Ihre Bemühungen“ („Sincere thanks for your effort.“)

Informally among friends or family:

  • „Ich Danke dir!” („Thanks to you!“)
  • „ Hey, Danke nochmal!” („Hey, thanks again!“)

The Importance of „Please“ and „Thank You“ in Germany:

Direct appreciation:
„Please“ and „Thank You“ are seen as essential expressions of respect and appreciation in Germany.

Frequent use:
People in Germany say „Thank You“ often – it is not seen as excessive, but as friendly and respectful.

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Summery:

Understanding German politeness in Language and Communication means understanding four important aspects:

By learning these basics, you will feel much more comfortable in everyday life in Germany. Politeness in Germany may feel different at first, but it is built on honesty, respect, and clarity. – Your efforts to understand and adapt will always be appreciated!

Don’t be afraid to be yourself – politeness in Germany is not about being perfect, but about showing respect and honesty in your own way.